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How to Be Your Own Cheerleader

2, 4, 6, 8 -Who do we appreciate?  ME!??  Wait. That’s definitely NOT how the cheer goes. But there are times when you need to be your own cheerleader.

Tough situations can be the best learning experiences (some call it getting wiser). It’s also important to be intentional about participating in activities that help you grow personally and professionally.

Choosing to work on yourself isn’t being selfish. Instead, developing your talents will help you understand your value, contribute more and improve your relationships on and off the job.

Use these tips for how to be your own coach and cheerleader:

Surround yourself. Successful people surround themselves with strong friendships and networks. Lose the losers and pick the enhancers. Have reliable critics for honest feedback.

Choose to be positive. Even though it annoys some people (like Complainers, for example), a positive attitude and presence draws encouraging people to you. Show interest in others and act instead of react. If you work with a complainer, take this free assessment to find out how you can best work with them.

Release what doesn’t work. Guilt and excess worry are unhealthy. Remedy what you can and then move on. There are times I’ve continued to work with clients who didn’t fit my business model. Setting healthy boundaries helps you overcome the “disease to please” so you can focus on your strengths and contribute your best where you should.

Learn to cope with, not reform toxic people. Some people are just difficult – about 4% of the population have toxic personality types and have no conscience. Don’t subject yourself to their madness. Instead, accept that they won’t change and quit relying on or trusting them.

Actions are louder than words. Successful people act as if their decisions will appear on the news. Tame your ego, honor confidences and help other people avoid embarrassment. The result is others sing your praises and cheer for you!

Remember, no matter what challenge or breakthrough you’re facing, I’m cheering for you and your success!


A recognized authority on negotiations, workplace issues and high stakes communication, Linda Swindling, is an author, media expert, a “recovering” employment attorney and a Certified Speaking Professional. The creator of the popular Passports to Success book series and author of the book Stop Complainers and Energy Drainers: How to Negotiate Work Drama to Get More Done, Linda speaks at conventions, associations and companies throughout the country. You can more about Linda at and